Queer dating don’ts. Picked by YOU.
(some) Straight folk love to say things like, “dating much be so much easier when you’re gay”, or “I wish I was queer, it’s so hard dating [insert as applicable].
The truth is, LGBTQ+ dating is HARD. And, depending on what you’re looking for from the interaction, can come with a whole set of unique obstacles and barriers that sometimes make the whole experience feel like an impossible slog.
Over on @GaysWhoMemeWell, we asked you to share particular things folk do on dates (or on a dating app) that immediately terminate any hopes of the relationship going any further.
Now, to start, and to avoid unnecessary repetition in the list: we’re happy to report that LOTS of the replies said any kind of racism, transphobia, or any other prejudices were a complete no-go!
Also a lot of gay guys said douching and hygiene. So there’s that.
Here’s some of your other replies (there were HUNDREDS so we’ll just pick at random or include any that appear more than once):
Disagree with any or want to add your own? Drop it in the comments on our Instagram post!
“If they pay more attention to their Instagram than me”
“Don’t have social media”
“Not paying for the first drinks. Or at least trying to pay. Manners people!!”
“If they don’t ask any questions back. Learn not to be so self-centred”
“Bad table manners!”
“If they talk about their exes!”
“If they start talking about politics”
“People who assume being pansexual means I must have a really high sex drive so it will definitely result in sex – is a really sure fire way to rule out any possibility of sex.”
“On their phone all the time!”
“If it’s a hook-up and they didn’t bother to douche beforehand, I will block after I leave”
“If they don’t drink it’s obviously find and very commendable but if they judge me for drinking to make me a bit more at ease then it’s not gonna work”
“When he shows you a picture of his ex who cheated”