Just over a year ago, one of the stars of Netflix’s 13 Reasons Why came out as trans and today she has announced she is engaged, commenting ‘It’s very affirming’.
Last July, Tommy Dorfman announced to the world that she was a proud trans woman. Just over a year later and she’s showing the world what trans joy in action looks like, announcing her engagement.
Dorfman revealed the news in a recent episode of Rachel Bilson’s podcast, Broad Ideas. In the episode, which premiered Monday, the 13 Reasons Why actress gave fans an insight into what life had been like following her transition:
“There are people who fetishize trans women … so then that’s another thing to be cognisant of, I’ve been fortunate to not have that experience … so much because I was so insular and private during my transition that I wasn’t out in the world. And then I fell in love with someone who doesn’t fetishize me in that way.”
She continued: “Because my work being so tied to my body and like face and like identity, and whatever I’d been identified as, it delayed some of my growth and maturation in my mid-20s. I made decisions that were just not aligned with how I really was or what I wanted — but out of fear.”
The star of Jane The Virgin or also talked about how she hadn’t been romantically involved with a woman for “a very long time” until she met her betrothed and that to begin with she had concerns that her female friends “would feel threatened by her transitioning and coming out as a lesbian or bisexual — that they might never trust her again.”
Of course, these friends didn’t bat an eyelid.
Though the identity of Tommy’s fiancé has not yet been shared, she went on to talk about their relationship, adding:
“It’s just great.It’s very affirming. It’s very safe — also not safe, and being in love is so scary and so uncomfortable and so painful … all the universal feelings of being in love.”
Huge congrats to Tommy! Love IS love!